My Girlfriend has an Identical Twin..Help? (Female twins appreciated!)

battlinlobster · 3 months

As a female twin who looks very much like my sister, I have to say that I have an irrational fear that a boyfriend of mine will find my sister attractive. If your girlfriend won't even admit that they look very much the same I imagine she feels similarly. She probably does do something to her appearance to differentiate herself from her sister, you just haven't noticed it yet. If I were you, I would take careful notice of the way the girls do their makeup. One of them will inevitably have a consistently heavier hand with the eyeliner, blush or lipstick.

glass1217 · 3 months

I dated an identical twin, then we broke up and I wound up messing around with the other, then in the strange twists of fate in life I wound up marrying the first one in the end. Though, we got divorced very quickly...honestly, best thing that could have happened.

Anyhow, you can learn to tell them apart after a while. Generally they will speak slightly differently, walk differently, and just generally carry themselves differently. They may look identical when it comes down to it, but they are different people and their mannerisms will show that. You'll pick up on it.

Let's hope your gf and her sister are nothing like the set I dealt with. Lord what a twisted odd time of life that was. Best of luck.

keephurlingbaby · 3 months

I dated an identical twin for years. It was definitely awkward in the beginning, but over time I was able to tell them apart via their voices. They had the same voice, but had a slightly different inflection or whatever you want to call it. They also tended to keep their hair different lengths/colors. But even then if I was inebriated I sometimes still mixed them up... I think they did that shit on purpose too. I decided to surprise my GF one morning and sneak into her house and crawl into bed with her. I start snuggling with her and kiss her on the cheek when she responds, "Wrong one, dumbass." They had switched rooms/beds on me. Fucked up shit. Maybe some sort of test or something. I failed. I can't recall how many times I've walked into their living room, seen each of them on a different couch, and had to put a great deal of investigation into figuring out which one I was supposed to sit next to.

I really don't get the whole twinsy taboo thing. No use in fantasizing over seeing her sister naked. She looks the same.

Deep__Thought · 3 months

Buy her something, necklace, bracelet, whatever and when she wears it you'll know it's her.

BIG_HAIRY_AZZZ · 3 months

offend the sister somehow so she will always give you dirty looks and evil eyes. problem solved

augustusgus · 3 months

get her a facial tattoo as a valentine's gift.

someguyinahat · 3 months

Surreptitiously mark the arm of your girlfriend with a permanent marker.

dead_feces_guy · 3 months

Write "ok to fuck" in sharpie on your girlfriend's forehead. Write "do not fuck" on her sister's forehead.

katrivers · 3 months

I'm an identical twin, and I think it should start becoming more obvious soon which one is your girlfriend. I wouldn't be offended, but I do think you should start looking into the small differences. It could be something small like a mole on the face, or the way that one twin carries themselves when compared to the other. If anything, when you guys have outings together, I would make sure you remember what color shirt your girlfriend is wearing.

We've never had issues with our boyfriends confusing us for the other.

wearetherowboats · 3 months

This isn't helpful at all, but I slept with a twin once. Met his brother the next day and all.i could think was "I've technically seen you naked, sort of..."

Made me feel a bit weird.

PhilGarber · 3 months

Thanks all. We've been dating unofficially for maybe a month or two (since it was unofficial, things get fuzzy..), officially dating for a few days (as I lose all my credibility here). I do anticipate things will become clear.

ViniTheHat · 3 months

stage a disfiguring accident for one of them. problem solved.

Final7C · 3 months

I dated twins. Identical twins. Here's the deal anyone who dates them for more than about a week can tell them apart. And yes they get offended. Ususally it's the demeanor that gives them away. I would find something that is slightly different, such as a mole or birthmark that only one of them has, but really.. after a VERY short time.. you will see the difference....

Edit: I dated one twin

PhilGarber · 3 months

Thanks all! Just to clarify, I'm JUST talking physical appearances here. I love my girlfriend, her sisters a complete stranger to me. They're both very unique people, I could never see myself with her twin. When we're together obviously I know it's my girlfriend. It's the 10 ft and further away that can get a little scary. I hope I didn't come off as a douche here :-(.

PontifexPrimus · 3 months

You know, a friend of mine had a very similar problem. He'd been dating twins for a while, and yes, he'd been getting it one with both of them. He told me they both liked the same things, both enjoyed anal sex very much, for instance. And I asked him how he could tell them apart, if they were so similar...

His answer: "Oh, easy. Sally's got long blond hair, and Derek's got a mustache."

spindrive · 3 months

You didn't need to add the brackets. It is assumed by default that female twins will be appreciated in every reddit thread.

DarrenEdwards · 3 months

There were identical triplets in our high school. One guy dated one of the girls in high school, later on he married the other two. Guess he had a type. The complications in this family boggle the mind.

tigel1201 · 3 months

I dated a lovely twin for 11 months and I learned a lot about twins. At first I couldn't tell the difference, but after awhile of getting to know her better the physical started to change for me. Give it time, and even if you don't realize she also knows there's someone else that looks nearly just like her. Wait to tell her when you finally see her differently than her twin.

Also, I broke up with my girlfriend over her twin. Long story short if I were you and had known do some readings of Twin studies. The amount of connection twins have is very interesting, but can also be extremely negative towards a relationship. My girlfriends twin at the time stopped liking me for whatever reason and despite how much my girlfriend loved me she would always take advice from her negative twin. Just an example. Do some research, its a great experience, enjoy it brother!

To answer your question though, Don't tell her you can't tell them apart. Wait until you can, then bring it up casually and possibly in a romantic environment illustrating how you find it fascinating the more you get to know your girlfriend, the more she looks different than every girl you've met, including her twin.

JonathanDoe · 3 months

Sorta had this problem... I was a babysitter for identical twin boys. When I first started babysitting, I had no clue who was who. But after babysitting 2-3 times, I just knew who was who. You could tell from body language, etc. It wasn't a concious thing, I wasn't thinking "Hey, that left eyebrow is slightly lower" or something. I just knew. Honestly, just spend some time with both and you'll know. There's so much more to a person than their appearance.

Slappie64 · 3 months

Knock her out and tattoo a mustache on the twin, you'll find her less attractive and be able to tell the difference.

weirdname · 3 months

i am a fraternal twin, my sister and i only look enough alike to be known as sisters, and my boyfriend came up and hugged her from behind because he thought it was me.

tip #1... remember what your girlfriend is wearing that day so you don't grope her sister on accident.

tip #2 other than that, don't stress about it. she is a twin, she knows her sister looks like her.

tip #3 as for actually saying you cant tell her apart from her twin, keep that to yourself. if the topic comes up, say there are subtle differences like how she smiles or how her hips move when she walks. she will appreciate that you notice the small differences rather than just saying they look exactly alike.

MadLintElf · 3 months

Cut to the chase, just get her an RFID implant, and use a reader.

You might have to get her drunk first, but hey this will work!

Ooer · 3 months

It will become obvious who is who when you spend more time with her. You will pick up on slight mannerisms and other subtle clues. Also, if you ever do mess up, she won't be too fussed assuming she is pretty relaxed.

AckbarImposter · 3 months

I have invented a new game just for your sake. When you are spooning/having sex/standing behind her, grab hold of boobs and say "Hey, wait a second, these feel like your sisters..." Then you have to hold on and start counting the seconds. I shall call it the Twin Rodeo. Try to make it past 5.

PhilGarber, the Twin Rodeo Master

mlkelty · 3 months

Get her pregnant. That should do it.

jaggeh · 3 months

give her one of these

Daegoba · 3 months

Congratulations.

YippySocialist · 3 months

My wife is a twin. While we were dating (shoot, even once after we were married) there were a few times that I mistook my sister-in-law for my wife. This even resulted in me dropping my towel after a shower and grabbing a nice big handful of my sister-in-laws butt. It's best to just accept that things like that might happen and laugh it off when it does. They know they look alike, and people have been making them more aware of it their entire lives. As long as they're not particularly high strung, you should be fine. And trust me, the longer you two are together, the easier it will be to tell them apart.

Lord_Attikus · 3 months

My buddy had this problem, whenever he saw one of them, he would high five them. The one he dated gave a really hard high five, the sister's was weak.

Physion · 3 months

My boyfriend has an identical twin. It was strange at first for me to see his brother and think he was physically attractive, but within a very short period of time (hours for me) of being around both of them, I realized they are in no way the same person aside from looking and sounding the same. I can never not see them as completely different people now. It's not a big deal, you'll quickly realize the same. Once I saw the vast personality differences, the tiny physical differences became extremely noticeable.

Damocles2010 · 3 months

OMG I feel your pain...

I went out with a twin once and I couldn't tell them apart....

Then I discovered that the blonde one had a little mole on her neck that the brunette didn't have......

infectmadagascar · 3 months

How long have you dated her? I'm gonna guess it's probably not been very long, because honestly once you've hung out around even the most identical of identical twins for a while you can tell them apart as easily as you can anyone else. I'm pretty good with faces and the minute details of them anyway so I usually don't have problems with twins, but I know a pair of twins who are eerily similar looking to the point even I had difficulty telling them apart at first. But after only about a week, it was easy. It ends up not even being a conscious thing; the tiny differences in their appearances coupled with the differences in how they hold themselves or smile or talk embed themselves in your sub-conscious and you just know, almost like instinct, who is who.

But if you need help, what I tend to look at is the line of the jaw (whether it's more square, stronger, etc), the mouth and of course how they dress and do their hair. There are usually differences, especially in the last two.

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